- pablo :)
- Sep 6, 2023

Hello Guys,
Today I will talk about a very personal experience that I'm going through right now.
Recently I have met someone, and for now we have only seen each other once. Nevertheless, the day we met was amazing, I felt like we really connected.
After this date I wanted to keep in touch and would always text this person. This person would react to my messages, but never initiate a conversation with me. This is why I decided to put an end to texting them to avoid getting hurt. Unfortunately I have been texting this person again recently, and it's nice, but I realize I should stop.
We cannot lie to ourselves forever. When we meet someone that we like and want something more serious, it's important to assess the situation. Clearly in my case, the person is not interested in anything more than casual hookups. Once we have understood that we want fundamentally different things and that the other party is not interested in something more, there is no other option but to give them up. It may hurt in the beginning to let them go, because we are emotional beings, and we get attached and we have feelings. (ps: they have feelings too they're just trying to repress them). But once we truly let them go, we are free, and it will be better in the long term. And I promise you someday we will all find someone who truly values us and won't even question committing to a relationship with us. I like to say sometimes you have to think with your head and not your heart. This means we have to make decisions that can hurt our heart in the beginning but it will be beneficial to us in the long run. If two people don't want the same thing, it will never work, and nothing we do will change that.
So basically, it's easier said than done but we have to cut people off if you're not on the same path. It's also very difficult for me, as I always have this tiny hope that they will change, but I have to let that go. Before we involve our heart more and hurt ourselves with someone who is not serious about us, we need to walk away with dignity. It's not easy, but it's brave and the right thing to do.
I hope this article gave you some clarity and helps you be brave and walk away from people who don't show genuine interest in you!
"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option" -Mark Twain
xx
-Pablo